Things I've had to learn the hard way in life

This is a list of the things I've had to learn the hard way in life. Funny how the longer I live, the more I realize I don't have all the answers. It is something I've had to come around to, as when I was young, I really thought I had life figured out.
1. No matter what religion tells you, feelings are really important.
2. Never judge anyone or say you would not do something. You really have no idea what you would do until you've been put into the situation.
3. Life, God, and raising children are way to big to fit into any book. (see # 1)
4. Marriage is hard work, but even harder if you never had the deep connection and love you should have. Don't listen to people who say romantic love fades and you just need to make a decision to work hard. Hard work is NOT enough, you need love and hard work.
5. Adapting to change is the single important skill one can have in life.
6. The saying "blood is thicker than water" - bologny. My (real) friends have proven to be more to me than my family.
7. If you find a real friend in this world, be the best and most loyal friend you can. Real friends are very hard to come by.
8. Children feed off of our feelings. If we feel ok about something, they will be ok about it. (most of the time)
9. Children need structure and discipline. ie: they must hear NO from time to time- this from a hippie, free thinking mom who explained WAY too much to her children up to this point.
10. Trust is really important. Not having it can screw a person up; having it can help a person make it through the worst of times.